President of Hire Value Inc. and CoHost of The Recruitment Flex Podcast
1. Do you remember a time when you were happiest as a child? Where are you, who were you with and what were you doing?
At 10, my dad and I started on a quest to make the perfect tomato sauce from scratch. We would try different types of tomatoes, different brands, until we thought we perfected it – of course we forgot to write down what the perfect blend was. My dad loved to cook – to create – to take whatever ingredients we had on hand or to travel across the city for a specific brand of tomatoes for our sauce. Pasta and tomato sauce has become a comfort food in my family.
2. What seemed like an inconsequential decision at the time, but in hindsight turned out to fundamentally reshape your life?
When I was 21, I signed up with Big Brothers/Big Sisters. I remember thinking, “Oh, this would be kind of cool”. Jennifer was matched with me, 10 years old, a middle child of 3 girls, her mom & dad were going through a heart wrenching divorce. About 6 months in, I realised the real benefactor was me. I didn’t know it at the time but that experience influenced the mother I eventually became.
3. When was the last time you changed your mind about something really important? What was it and what led you to change your view?
For nearly 20 years – my energy was focused on my kids and I was very vocal about these years being it was all about them. In fact when I heard other women say “I need ME time’ I thought it was selfish and would say as much. At age 50, it hit me like a truck, my being unhappy was affecting everyone around me; that was so unfair to them. I shifted my thinking to care for my happiness first. It’s not selfish, it’s smart. In the last 2 years, it finally sank in what people meant by ME time. If I am in the best head space so are the kids. It’s been so true.
4. What are the three books that you would unhesitatingly recommend to others? Why?
7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R.Corey
The first staffing firm I worked for, TPD, this was mandatory reading. I remember reading it on the train ride to work and having this overwhelming feeling of being in complete control and empowered. I could not wait to get to work! I have read it 5 times since then and get something different from it each time.
Traditional Italian Cooking, by Gabriella Rossi
Do you believe in past lives? I was in Boston’s old Italy neighborhood, I knew I’d been there before, it felt like home. This cookbook brings me back to that moment; food, home, love & comfort. **For the record, my family heritage is not Italian.
The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne
Reading this flashed me back to childhood, I’d always believed I could become whatever I set my mind to be. I always had a crystal clear vision of what my life would be like.
5. What personality trait has got you in the most trouble? What kind of trouble
Being candid. Calling it as I see it. Cold, hard reality is; women are expected to sugar coat the truth. I just can’t. People need to hear what they really did wrong in the interview, telling someone what they are wearing isn’t appropriate, telling someone how they are coming across, telling my daughter the eye makeup is too much…. most people don’t really want to hear the truth.
“Cold, hard reality is; women are expected to sugar coat the truth. I just can’t.”